Thursday, March 06, 2008


Not being wanted by someone is one of the harshest realities in this life. Especially when you are suddenly unwanted by someone that you want and that wanted you... for a while. To be unwanted is to be undesired, unaccepted, unneeded, unsought, unwished for. Those are some strong words!

How do you deal with that?

This is where I usually give you a long, drawn out explanation of how you deal with it but in this case, I really don't know. I have been trying to deal with this situation for about two months now. And while they say that time heals all wounds, I ain't seein' it. It feels to me like every passing day makes the weight of this burden heavier. The longer I have to go without a valid or somewhat reasonable excuse for why I'm unwanted, the harder it is for me to deal.

I am not above showing my weaknesses on this site. I do it all the time. But I pride myself on being able to take my life experiences and spin them into something useful, something from which others can learn and from which we can all grow. But I am honestly at a loss here.

So it's your turn... I need some advice. How do you deal?

You don't have to leave a comment here for all the world to see. You can always just send an email to Your thoughts, ideas and swift kicks in the backside are appreciated.


Kristan said...

you know that i know all too well what you are going through. it's not easy... especially after wasting 5 years of your life with someone. it just sucks.

i can tell you that the phrase "time will heal" gets really old after a while. you'll hear it from so many people. i wish i knew why someone came up with that phrase because it's really lame... of course you'll get better over time, time doesn't stop just because you lost the one you wanted.

i have much more to say, but i gotta head to work. we need to hang out sometime. i know i'm super busy right now, but i will make time for hanging out with you.

Annie said...

Check e-mail soon.

Pancake Master said...

I myself am wrestling with the following notion: is it better to know you're unwanted, or to be left dwindling in this no-zone where you aren't sure whether you're wanted or not? Ultimately I think it's best to know. At least then you can work on moving on, difficult though it may be, instead of staying in some weird kinda limbo-land and (potentially/definitely) wasting your time. Know whu'm sayin'?

Christy said...

unfortunately it seems that getting out there and finding that there are others that potentially want you REALLY HELPS!!! It assists in allowing you to re-evaluate who you are and that you lived your whole life just fine without him before you met...and you will get along just fine without him does just take time, alcohol and a few cute boys to help pass the time along the way! :) I think St. Paddy's day may be just what the doctor ordered!

Michele said...

Thank you all for the comments and the emails and dinner too! You're all so generous and kind. I appreciate it!