Thursday, February 05, 2009

To Delete Or Not To Delete

To delete or not to delete? That is my biggest question at the moment. Everyone should be so lucky as to have such simplistic things upon which to dwell, right? Although it seems less than complicated or fairly straight-forward, deciding whether or not to delete is an arduous, mind-bending process for me. 

Much like cleaning out that old box of crap from high school that you have carried from apartment to apartment and house to house, scouring the unsavory parts of your past from your life (as much as that can be done) demands your time and thoughtfulness. Most of the bad stuff in my life has been connected to plenty of good and as the old saying goes, you don't want to "throw the baby out with the bath water." 

These days, it's much harder to compartmentalize your life than it once was, thanks to technologies that have made the world much smaller. And it makes it harder to separate good from bad. Then comes the question, to delete or not to delete? 

Do I delete the people from my life that are still associated with someone I want completely removed from my life? Some of them are nice people. Some of them I know well. And the rest of them, well, they just remind me of stuff I don't want to remember. But it's not really their fault is it? That's where the dilemma comes.  Some folks were removed swiftly and without a second thought. But these folks in question... I hold onto them partly because I don't want to seem like a catty bitch and partly because I don't know if my reason for deleting them is valid. Also, because so many people are connected, once you start deleting, finding the end may be difficult. So do I delete them or not? 

Deleting can eliminate drama yet it can create so much more and in my effort to have a drama-less 2009, I want to make the right decision. 

To delete or not to delete?

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